Social –economic changes have stressed the traditional social system in which parents, grandparents, relatives and the community played different but mutual roles in children upbringing. Child upbringing was a collective community responsibility and it was intended to groom children into functional members of society. The system also provided for a social security system in which the young, vulnerable, disadvantaged were supported by other strong and productive members of the family and community.
Every parent strived to groom his/her children into productive and responsible members of society such that when he/she became older and weaker, his children would be able to take care of him or her. The parents had to provide for, love and take care of their families. “Family” in traditional society meant parents, children, grand parents and any other relatives. At family level, the man was in charge of family leadership, owned all family property and was responsible for all critical family decisions. The role of the woman was bearing children and taking care of the family. Women had limited access to education and productive resources say land, they lacked independence in decision making.
Parents taught their children skills relevant to their social gender roles. Boys learnt by working with fathers, while girls learnt by working alongside mothers. Boys learnt skills like metal works, carpentry, diviners, while girls learnt skills like basketry, pottery. Blame for a socially mal- adjusted child was put on the father or mother. Vocational skills like animal husbandry, farming, hunting, healing, rain making were passed on to children through apprenticeship hence were hereditary. Grandparents with diminished physical energy were supposed to be taken care of with their role inclined to passing on the cores of socialization to their grand children .They taught children stories that glorified and promoted socially acceptable behavior and disparaged undesirable behavior. They were integral and effective socializing agents because they combined personal life experiences and heroics with freedom to broach sensitive subjects like sex. This multi-generation social setup ensured a nearly flawless socialization of children in traditional society. In today society, most of the roles played by the traditional society to groom children like socialization,skills development, and teaching morals have been left to formal schools, however, school socialization often teaches skills and behaviour that are some times irrelevant to local needs.It also relies on a limited number of role models.
In traditional society, the care of Orphans is the responsibility of a close relative especially an Uncle, or the grandparent. Many orphans end up in the care of grandparent since they tend to offer more social stability to the orphans. The devastation of HIV/aids has destroyed the “social security “system in Ugandan communities. Typically, Parents bear children whom they strive to shape into successful adults, who in turn take have to take care of the parents in their senile ages. Typically, it has created a generation gap which makes the traditional social system malfunctioned.
While the traditional social system is still widely accepted as a basis for family and community management, the customs, beliefs and principles on which it was based have been grossly eroded, and in communities where it is still respected , the social set up does not appropriately allow for its functionality.